I have always had that extra dose of mommy worry. By reputation, I am the helicopter mom. I appeared confident but people didn’t know my secret. I’ve been afraid and confused. I have been terrified of failing as a mom, not protecting my children, and missing something important. That my children would suffer in silence, the way I did.
Raised in a great home with parents who loved me. My mother was a 1980s version of June Cleaver. I was given everything a child could dream of. I grew up in a safe neighborhood and went to the best schools. Then at 8 years of age, my world shattered. A family friend began to sexually abuse me. My parents loved him, and his kids were my friends. He made me feel special and said we were doing something I needed and must be kept a secret. Resulting in most of my childhood being in a constant and extreme state of confusion.
So as a mom, I have focused on doing everything possible to keep my children safe. Took classes, set parental controls to the maximum level, and vigilantly taught my children about stranger danger and safe touches. But, I was still gripped in fear! Yes, all of these dangers are real, but it wasn’t what I had experienced growing up. I was harmed amid a “safe environment” and hurt by a friend, not a stranger. The confusion from my childhood remained. Despite all the effort, I was still afraid and didn’t know how to protect my kids.
Watchful Eye Training
When my friend told me about 10.18’s Watchful Eye class, I reluctantly signed up. To my surprise, they openly talked about the deception of abuse and how appearances can be deceiving. Finally, someone spoke about the reality that I had LIVED. I almost fell out of my seat when they gave the statistics showing my story was the most common. What?!?! Immediately, I could see the confusion for what it was, a manipulative tactic to control me. Empowering me as a mom to protect my kids and others. The instructor made this complex topic feel very safe. I felt hope and that I had vital tools to protect my children the way I wasn’t. Helping me make more sense of my history was a surprising and unexpected bonus! I am so thankful to have found such an awesome resource like 10.18!
Lisa M. – Overland Park, KS